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POLICE HANDCUFF AND ARREST 6-YEAR-OLD BLACK GIRL FOR BAD BEHAVIOR

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I’m not quite sure what the world is coming to when a 6-year-old child is handcuffed and put in the back of a police car for having a tantrum in class. The Milledgeville police department was called into a classroom at Creekside Elementary School when teachers were unable to “control” Salecia Johnson. Officials at the school said that Salecia was throwing items and knocked over a bookshelf that hit the principal in the leg during her outburst.

Police officers were called to the school, and they observed the child screaming and crying in the principals office.

In his police report the responding officer noted that he approached Salecia in the office and she “pulled away and began actively resisting and fighting with me.” After she “resisted” his attempt to calm her down, the officer stated that “the child was then placed in handcuffs for her safety and the officer proceeded to bring her down to the police station”.

School officials say that they attempted to call the child’s mother, but they were unsuccessful in reaching her. On Tuesday police officials said that the charges had been dropped due to the child’s age.

The girl’s aunt  was eventually able to be reached.  She went to the police station and picked her niece up after this horrible ordeal.  Speaking to a local news station Candace Ruff said “I don’t think she misbehaved to the point where she should have been handcuffed and taken downtown to the police department”.

Salecia’s mother told CNN that her daughter has been suspended by the school as a result of the incident, and won’t be allowed to return to school until August.  Initially, she was charged as a juvenile with simple battery of a schoolteacher and criminal damage to property.

In the video above police reps say that anyone who is placed in the back of a police car is put into handcuffs regardless of their age.

There are so many wrongs in this situation.  Have we really come to a point in our society where school administrators have to call law enforcement in to control kindergartners. Usually, the cops are called when a person feels that they are being threatened or their safety is in danger.  Under no circumstances can I fathom that a 6-year-old without any type of weapon could be able to harm a group of adults.

This is the mentality that causes so many of our youth to grow up with a mentality that opposes authority.  How can we expect this child to have a positive view of the police when one of her earliest memories was sitting in the back of a police car with her hands behind her back.  Even though the police department says that she was never placed in a cell, the mere thought of walking an obviously distraught child into a police precinct full of hardened criminals is enough to make me cringe. Really, what planet do some of these people come from?!?!? Instead of treating this child like an adolescent these people decided that it was best suited to introduce her to the life of a hardened criminal before she even made it to the first grade. Stay classy Milledgeville PD…

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10-YEAR-OLD GIRL DIES AFTER AN AFTER SCHOOL FIGHT

The death of a 10-year-old girl has been ruled a homicide after authorities say she got into a fight with a classmate last week after school.

The fifth grade student, Joanna Ramos got into an altercation and received blunt force trauma to her head according to the Long Beach, Ca. police department. The fight between Ramos and an 11-year-old female classmate lasted about one minute as several other students looked on.

Police say that the two children met in an alley after school and exchanged punches. Even though there were no weapons involved in the altercation Ramos was critically injured and died later on in the evening after being taken to an emergency room.

Authorities are waiting for the autopsy to be complete before deciding if they are going to file charges in the case.

My heart goes out to the family of this little girl.  No parent expects to send their child to school and have them return in a body bag.  It’s just not fair!

I am curious as to where were the teachers when this fight was taking place.  I know school yard fights take place all the time.  But the way things are these days, you can’t take your eyes off of the kids for even a minute because you never know what could possibly happen.   This is just a sad situation from all aspects.

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TEENAGE GIRL THREATENS TO KILL HERSELF ON TWITTER…AND DOES IT

After reading about the apparent suicide of Don Cornelius earlier today reports have surfaced that a 17-year-old Houston, TX girl has taken her life after tweeting about her suicidal thoughts on Twitter and   Tumblr.  Ashley Duncan was a student at Bell Aire High School and had made several posts on the internet about getting a gun and a plan that she had to kill herself due to the pain that she was in.

Below are two posts and a picture from from Ashley’s Tumblr and Twitter.

if you know or have known what it feels like to want to die every minute second hour day week month year then you feel me. I’m not here to put my business out like y’all care or for y’all to feel sorry for me but this is the only way I can vent. Im not complaining because I know it’s people out in this world that has it a lot worse but what you don’t understand is I really have it bad. I might not struggle financially but I struggle emotionally and mentally and I think that’s the worst struggle. the only thing that made me happy is gone. So in asking why can’t it be my choice to die now? I’m miserable. I’m just a dead stoner pill head walking and nobody notices it but me. One day I won’t be here anymore and that’ll be the happiest day of my life but for the ones that say they love me its gonna hurt but fuck it I’m tired and I’m done with this life.

..I should’ve went through with my plan, I wouldn’t have to feel or deal. Like I said yesterday I’m tired as fuck and ready for this shit to be over and the shit I’m referring to is my life! peace ✌

Depression is a major issue that needs to be addressed.  There has got to be a better way of recognizing the signs and helping out the people who need it the most.   This young lady could have been helped, and I know that there are millions of other folks out there who are feeling the effects of depression.

I didn’t know Ashley or Don Cornelius personally but I know that we are losing people left and right of all age groups, nationalities, and class to the disease of depression.  If you can do something to save someone who you think is suffering, please help them!

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON DEPRESSION IN THE AFRICAN AMERICAN AND LATINO COMMUNITY?

WOMAN ABANDONS HER TWO DAUGHTERS ON BUSY NEW YORK STREET


A single mother in New York turned herself in earlier today after police say she left her two daughters stranded on a sidewalk in Broooklyn.

Dalisha Adams, 26 has been charged with two counts of endangering the welfare of a child. Cops say that Adams’ daughters Dominae, 5, and Diani, 3 were spotted earlier this week wandering along a busy street in the Canarsie area of Brooklyn. An elderly couple saw the two children and called police because they were playing without an adult present.

When questioned by the police the older child told them her name and a vague description of her mother’s car and home, but could not give enough information for authorities to identify the mom. The litte girl told a news photographer “Mommy just left us on the sidewalk and drove away”

The mother claims that she left the girls with their grandmother inside of the neighborhood’s Bayview Houses. She says that Bertha Davia, who is the mother of the girls father agreed to watch them. The girls father has been accused of domestic abuse previously, and Adams said she did not enter the home because she feared he would assault her.

There were no visible signs of abuse, and the girls were dressed in hooded coats and UGG Boots. After being taken to a hospital the girls were turned over to child protective services. Authorities at child services apparently recognized the girls and told police who the girls mother is.

Police questioned neighbors who told them that they often heard screaming from the Adams home. They say that she could often be heard screaming “Shut the f*ck up” and threatening to punch her youngest daughter in the face. The neighbor also said that she heard the mother screaming “Stop crying. Shut the f— up. I’m gonna get you out of here”

Stories like this really tear at my heart. These babies seem to be caught in a situation where their mother obviously doesn’t care about their well being, and as far as we can see there is not a father present in the home. Prayerfully, these little girls will be placed in a home with responsible adults who care about them. They didn’t ask to be here. The mother needs to be held accountable for actions, and the grandmother needs to be investigated also. This story really makes me ponder why you have to get a license to drive a car but not to have a child.

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PHILADELPHIA MAN SHOOTS AND KILLS TEENS WHO WANTED TO FIGHT HIS SONS

Here is a prime example of why you need to monitor what is going on with your kids when they are on social networking sites.   A Philadelphia area man has been arrested for shooting and killing two teenagers and critically injuring another who had an altercation with his three stepsons in school.  The issue between the teens then  spilled onto the social networking site Facebook.

Seven teenage boys were packed into the Toyota Corolla, sitting on top of each other, when the car pulled over on the 1500 block of East Luzerne Street in Juniata Park. It was about 10:30 Tuesday night, and the youths were looking for a fight, police said.

It had started in school with an argument between some of the friends in the car and three teenage brothers, spilled onto Facebook with threats, and escalated into plans to settle the matter with a physical battle.

As the teens waited in the car, a man in a gray hoodie came out of a house and approached them. Spooked, they drove to the back of the house – but moments later, police said, the same man emerged from the back door and ran up to the passenger side.

He fired from 10 to 12 shots into the car at point-blank range. Joshua Soto, 14, of North Philadelphia, and Javier Orlandi, 16, of Kensington, were pronounced dead within a half-hour. Dante Lugo, 14, died Wednesday night at St. Christopher’s Hospital for Children. The 16-year-old driver was hit in the neck and was listed in stable condition at St. Christopher’s.

Police on Wednesday identified the alleged shooter as Axel Barreto, the 30-year-old stepfather of the three brothers, and announced a warrant for his arrest. Barreto was taken into custody about 9 p.m. at the Knights Inn in Bensalem, said Chief Deputy U.S. Marshal John Patrignani. Barreto, who was with a woman, was not armed and did not resist arrest by Philadelphia police and members of the U.S. Marshals Service Fugitive Task Force, Patrignani said. Earlier in the day, police described Barreto as “armed and extremely dangerous.”

“There very easily could have been seven dead teenagers in that car,” Philadelphia Capt. James Clark said. “He just randomly fired.”

The violence in our community has to stop.  We can’t teach our children to be non violent and then turn around and violently kill the people that they have conflicts with.  So now we have parents who have lost their children and children who have lost their step father to a senseless act of violence.  As a father this man should have known better and realized that his actions would have consequences.  There has to be a way for us to cure this violent cycle that is taking so many young minority men away from out communities.

Here is a picture of the suspect Axel Barreto.

 

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MOTHER PUNISHES HER CHILD BY MAKING HIM STAND OUTSIDE WITH A SIGN

A Fort Wayne, IN woman went to some extreme measures to punish her 14-year-old son recently.

Dynesha Lax says that she tried all she could to stop her son from committing crimes and decided to try an alternative method of punishment.

After going to court for crimes that he committed, the boy was given a slap on the wrist in the form of community service. Dynesha told her son that he had to stand outside wearing a sign that detailed all of his wrongdoings.

The teenager stood on a neighborhood corner with the sign that read “I lie, I steal, I sell drugs, I don’t follow the law.”

Lax explained that the court system placed her son on probation and made her responsible for over $300 in fees but no one offered a solution to what was going on with him.

Some drivers who saw the teen outside with the sign didn’t think what Lax did to her son was illegal so they called the police and reported her. When police arrived they decided that what the mother was doing was completely legal because the child was in no danger.

When asked about the punishment Dynesha said “I’m hoping that having him out here is going to make it sink in. It wasn’t for it to be a joke or anything funny. He just had to stand out here two hours and suddenly it blew up. Then again they’ve got their way of parenting and I’ve got mine. My object is to save my son.

Sometimes folks need to mind their own damn business!  If this mother chose to discipline her child by having him stand outside that is her choice. The same people that called the police on her will be the same ones calling the police if he broke into their home and stole some of their property. I’m glad the police made the right call and allowed to discipline her child the way she saw fit.

What do you think?

Was this punishment too severe?

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AN ATLANTA TEACHER ASSIGNS MATH HOMEWORK ABOUT SLAVE BEATINGS


In Atlanta-area elementary SCHOOL is under fire after some of their 3rd grade teachers assigned math homework to their classes with word problems that referenced slavery and beating without any reference to history.

Questions on the assignment like “Each tree had 56 oranges. If eight slaves pick them equally, then how much would each slave pick? ” and “If Frederick got two beatings per day, how many beatings did he get in one week?””, were given to students at Beaver Ridge Elementary school in Norcross, Georgia.

The assignment  even referenced blacks having to pay a FINE  for voting.  The teachers asked the students “Susan B Anthony was fined $100 for voting for president.   She only had $25, how much more did she need to pay the fine?  I mean really... WTF?!?!?!?! Why would you teach about Black’s having to pay a fine to vote without teaching about the 15th Amendment  which prohibited states from denying voting rights based on skin color.

The student body at Beaver Ridge Elementary is made up of 24%  Black children and 62%  Latino children who come from low income homes.  It’s already hard enough getting young voters and people of color to get out and go to the polls, things like this will only continue the insidious effects of low minority voter turn outs and lack of political involvement by people of color.

Don’t get me wrong, I definitely feel that the historical facts of slavery should be taught to students at an early age. But it HAS to be done in the correct historical context.  If not, you run the risk of having young children gaining an inferiority complex that could plague their lives forever.

Officials from the Gwinnett County School District said that the teacher wanted to “cross-curricular activity,” in which social studies topics would be woven into math assignments.”

The Georgia chapter of the NAACP is asking that the teacher who wrote the questions be fired.  Personally I think that the teacher who wrote them, and the others who distributed should get the boot.   The long lasting effects of this particular assignment can’t be measured.

WHAT DO YOU THINK? 

SHOULD THESE TEACHERS BE FIRED FOR THEIR ACTIONS?

HOW DOES A 15-YEAR-OLD DALLAS TEENAGER MISTAKENLY GET DEPORTED?

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The family of a Dallas teenager who ran away from home more than a year ago was shocked to find out that their 15-year-old little girl had been deported to Columbia. U.S. authorities mistakenly deported  Jakadrien Turner after she gave them a fake name during an arrest for shoplifting in a local mall.   According to CNN  the teen told authorities that her name was Tika Cortez and she was 21-years-old.

The girl’s family has been looking for her for over a year and even used Facebook to track her down.  At first they found out that Jakadrien had been living in Houston, Texas and working in a night club.  They contacted authorities in that area who offered no assistance in returning her to the family.

After trying to get the teenager to be returned from Houston the family learned that she was in Columbia partying and smoking marijuana.   It was also revealed that the teenager who does not even speak Spanish (Columbia’s native language) is now pregnant.

Pictures on her Facebook page revealed that she was living in Columbia, partying and smoking marijuana.  Once they found out where she was  it was later revealed that the teenager is now pregnant.

No one in the family knows how Jakadrien got to Columbia or how long she has been there.  According to the Immigration and Customs Enforcement agency she was taken to Columbia after her arrest because she gave them the false identity.  The authorities are standing by the fact that they believed her because according to them she never changed her story during the criminal case and the deportation process even though they took her fingerprints to verify her identity.

According to Jakadrien’s family she began having problems in school and ran away two weeks prior to going missing in the Fall of 2010.  Also, she had recently lost her grandfather who died before she ran away.

According to her grandmother, the family exhausted all resources when trying to get her to come back .  The family says they contacted the police, National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and the Dallas transportation authority and no one was able to help them  bring Jakadrien home.

Now that the media has gotten involved the Columbian  foreign ministry has agreed to have the teenager returned to her family in Dallas on Friday.

When I first began reading about this story I was a bit confused. How could a teenager who is a legal American citizen be “mistakenly” deported to another country?  Was she on a boat using the bathroom and forgot to come out before the boat sailed out to sea? Did she get lost on a vacation and not know how to find her way home? Was she in a shelter of some sort that housed illegal immigrants and some how got mistaken for someone that she looked like. All of these scenarios ran through my mind as I scrolled pass the headlines on several websites that posted the story.

Now that I have finally read the story I have a clearer understanding of what is going on. Even though every detail about what happened  isn’t clear I think one thing is for sure. The system that was designed to protect and keep our children safe from harm has failed us.  Even though she gave them an alias, I think at some point it had to be obvious that she wasn’t a native of Columbia if she couldn’t speak Spanish.  Not only that, but once her finger prints came back it should have been revealed that she wasn’t who she said she was.

This is just another example of why as fathers we have to keep a watchful eye on our children.  There won’t always be people out there to look out for our children when they leave our eye sight.  When you have teenagers you have to make sure that  you know every single thing that your child is involved in.  The video doesn’t mention anything about her  father being present in her life or active in the search for her, so I’m not too sure where he is.  But it does mention that her grades dropped, and her behavior started to change when her grandfather passed away.  I’m sure that losing that male figure had something to do with why she felt the need to rebel.  It’s possible that I wouldn’t even be typing this story if this young lady had a consistently positive male father figure in her life.

I don’t think all of the blame can be laid on one person or organization.  I think the focus now has to be on restoring this child’s relationship with her family once she returns home.  She has to know that her family loves her and cares for her.  Some sort of counseling needs to be put in place to help with the healing process.  As a parent I could not fathom my child being missing for over a year and discovering that she was in another country getting ready to give birth.  There isn’t a handbook that has been written that can prepare anyone for that.  The resolution to this problem starts as soon as she gets off of the plane and will have to continue for a very long time.

If you have a child who you think is considering running away or know of someone who has run away you may want to visit  www.1800runaway.org/.  There are plenty of resources out there, and as parents it is our responsibility to make sure that we are doing our part to keep our children safe and AT HOME!

SPORTS AND SEXUAL ABUSE: ARE WE DOING ENOUGH TO PROTECT OUR KIDS?

As parents we usually want our children to be involved in some sort of extracurricular activities as they grow up.  As dads we usually want our boys to play sports or our girls to be involved in some sort of  liberal arts, music or dance program.  In our culture it is  natural for a parent to want their children to get up and get involved in activities.   Especially in today’s society when the kids have every reason in the world not to leave the house because everything they could ever want is at their finger tips.

Every day millions of children across the country practice and participate in team sports.  These sports are usually supervised by other adults with whom we trust our most precious jewels.  After reports surfaced that former Penn State assistant coach Jerry Sandusky is being accused of molesting at least eight young boys over a 15-year period I began thinking about how many other coaches out there were molesting children and how many institutions were aware of these acts and just swept it under the rug.  Of course Sandusky isn’t the only coach who has aused his authoritative position to take advantage of a child.  In a recently released autobiography Boxer Sugar Ray Leonard revealed that he was molested as a teenager by a trainer he looked up to.  There was also the case of the Boston Red Sox manager who targeted African American boys to molest from 1971 to 1991.  Donald Fitzpatrick, who is white would pick up African American boys in Winter Haven, Florida when the Red Sox held spring training there each year.  This man would molest boys inside of the  Red Sox clubhouse and at a local Holiday Inn.  The seven men who accused Fitzpatrick claimed that the Red Sox organization knew what was going on and did nothing about the abuse.  So again this is a situation where parents trusted individuals to do the right thing with their kids and the parties involved did nothing but allow this  monster to commit these heinous acts for twenty years.  People like Joe Paterno and others who were aware that these crimes were being committed are just as much to blame as the person who actually harmed the children.

Molestation is an all too common occurrence, and as fathers we have to do everything that we can to protect our children from these predators.  The trust factor has to be eliminated.  As a father I will say that the people who I actually trust around my child are minimal.  It’s my responsibility to keep her safe and I try my best to make sure that she knows what she should do if anyone were to try to abuse her.

Many of us may not feel comfortable talking to our children about this issue but it has to be an ongoing conversation.  You have to be responsible enough to open up the dialog with the kids and help them understand how important it is to protect themselves at all times.  So here are a few things that we as parents can do to prevent this type of thing from happening to our kids.

Talk to them and help them understand their private areas – One of the first steps in preventing sexual abuse is helping your kids understand their private parts.  Make sure they have a clear understanding of the difference between consensual and respectful touching and being touched inappropriately by someone.  This can be uncomfortable for many people, but it has to be done.  There is something called the “bathing suit analogy” that could be used for younger kids.  Basically, you tell the child that the area that is covered by a bathing suit is off limits for everyone except a parent or a doctor giving medical care.   Make sure you are using proper terms when referring to body parts.  Using anatomically correct words like “penis, vagina and breasts”  can eliminate any room for misinterpretation between you and the child.

Be vigilant – The conversation between  you and your kids should be on-going.  This isn’t just a one time conversation.  If you notice any type of changes in your child’s behavior you have to get to the bottom of whatever the issue may be.  Some of the signs that you can look for include   aggressive behaviors, thumb-sucking, bed-wetting, depressed, distant,  nightmares or trouble sleeping and sudden changes in appetite.  If you start seeing these signs or anything else that you may think is peculiar you need to find out what is going on.  Talk to their friends and see if they know anything.  If you suspect that something is going on with your child it’s your responsibility to investigate until you get the answers you are looking for.

Be aware of who is around your child – We have to stop letting any and everybody come in contact with our children.  If your child is involved in sports you need to be at the practices and talking to the coaches.  You have to get involved and STAY involved.  Don’t let the predators gain your trust because you are the protector of your child and you have to watch out for their best interest.  Obviously,  some of these sports organizations are harboring these predators so you have to be on the look out for the suspicious behavior.  There are websites out there that allow you to check and see if some one has been convicted of any type of sex crimes.  Don’t be afraid to check someone’s background.  You would be surprised at how many people we come in contact with every day who have some sort of sex crime on their record.  Every city usually has a sex offenders registry, or  you can always check the National Sex Offenders Public Website.

No Secrets – One of the ways that a predator takes advantage of a child is by convincing them to keep the abuse a secret.  You have to be proactive and let them know what they can come and talk to you about anything.  I suggest having a “No Secret Rule” with your child.  As a parent you should be involved in every area of your child’s life anyway, but letting them know that they can talk to you about anything is key.  If someone tells them a secret and they don’t feel comfortable about it they should be able to come to you and let you know.   Many predators convince their victims to keep these secrets by giving gifts.  Your child shouldn’t be receiving any type of gifts from an adult unless you know them and know exactly what the reason behind the gift.  Let the child know that if he/she feels uncomfortable about something that an adult asks them to do that they should notify you immediately.

Believe them – It is  important for the kids to know that when they come to us about something as serious as sexual abuse that we will believe them.  You should take any allegation serious that your child brings to your attention.  If something does happen  to your child you should report it to authorities immediately.  Your child’s protection is in your hands so  you have to make sure that they know that you are there for them at all times.

These are just a few tips to help you fight these predators.  This abuse of our children is becoming too common, and we need to make sure as fathers we are fighting back.  I don’t want to hear about one more child being abused by someone that was in a position of trust.  Lets all do what we have to do to keep our kids safe.

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