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The custody war between Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry is starting to get really ugly.

Halle has asked a judge for permission to move to France with their daughter Nahla. Gabriel is objecting to the request

According to TMZ, Halle has filed papers requesting to move and there is currently a hearing pending on the matter.

Of course this is a trick that many custodial parents use in the courts when they want to remove the non custodial parent from the child’s life. Halle plans on moving thousands of miles away with her boyfriend and baby Nahla while Gabriel is left living in the states without his child.

I can’t stress how important it is to have a custody order in place when you are dealing with a hostile relationship.  Over the last few weeks it appears that Halle has done several things through the legal system in attempt to get Gabriel away from his child.

Speaking from experience I know how hard it can be when a mother decides to move away and take your child away from you. Halle has been trying to paint Gabriel as an unfit father since their legal issues began, but it seems to me that she is the one who is troubled.  I have a problem with any custodial parent who tries to take their child from the non custodial parent.  This type of thing happens all of the time in the judicial system. And quite frankly, it’s just not right!

Have you ever been part of a custody battle where the custodial parent tried to move away with your child? If so, how did it turn out and what lessons did you learn?



I don’t care how rich and famous you are, custody battles are never fun and usually end up hurting the child in the long run.

Antonio Brown is a wide receiver for the NFL’s Pittsburgh Steelers and is involved in an ugly court battle with the mother of his child. Earlier this week Shameika Brailsford told authorities that Brown had kidnapped their 4-year-old son Antonio Brown Jr. from Pennsylvania a few months ago. Shameika told authorities that Brown has took heir son away from her without her permission and refuses to return him to her.

Now Shameika has petitioned a Miami court for an emergency child pick up order, which means that police would have to pick up the child and return him to her home.

In a statement that was issued to TMZ, Brown’s lawyer said that Shameika agreed to let the child live with his father back in February 2011. In the statement, the lawyer also said “The mother obviously knew where the child was the entire time and, in fact, Mr. Brown recently arranged for the mother to visit with the child in Pittsburgh. This is nothing more than a classic attempt to shake down a professional athlete for money.”

I’m a strong proponent of court ordered custody agreements when two parents aren’t on the same page.  From what I can tell this is a classic case of a mother attempting to control and manipulate a situation to coincide with what she wants and not what is best for the child.

If a child was living with his father for almost a year I don’t think any type of emergency order should be issued because if she was that concerned about the well being of her child she would have took the appropriate  action  and notified authorities when the child was initially removed from the home.

Fathers please make sure you know your rights. Each state is different, but it is important to know what the legalities are when it comes to custody and visitation.  If you want to be a part of your child’s life and the mother is trying to stop you please know that you have just as much of a right to see your child as she does.  I know it gets frustrating at times, but it is a task that we sometimes have to go through to make sure we are not getting robbed of our parental rights.

Since all of this drama has started she has deleted her Twitter account, but below are some pictures of Shameika


I’ve just learned that comedian Katt Williams has lost custody of one of his children. Williams who is the adoptive father to 7 children lost custody of his daughter Leanne to his ex Crystal McGhee.

McGhee won sole legal and physical custody while Katt was awarded visitation of the 8 year old on alternating weekends. Crystal also won visitation of Leanne’s two siblings. It’s not clear if Williams has custody of those two.

This has seemingly been thee worst year ever for Katt Williams. I know he’s on the road now doing comedy, but hopefully things will pick up for him in 2012.

It always saddens me when I see fathers who are obviously trying to work hard and provide for their children get the short end of the judicial stick when it comes to custody and visitation. I don’t know the specifics of the court case, but I know from personal experience  how hard it is to be told by a judge that you can not be in your  child’s life on a full time basis.

The system isn’t designed for us to win, so as fathers we have to be aware of our rights and know exactly what the paramaters of our custody orders entail. Katt has gone through a lot this year, but I hope that he and Crystal can work these things out so that he is not just reduced to seeing his daughter every other weekend. Because that is not the way to effectively raise a child.

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