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Cori B. is the daughter of rapper Snoop Dogg and she is following in her daddy’s footsteps.  Cori is also an artist making strides within the music industry.   In her latest video she tells us why she is such a “Daddy’s Girl”

In the video Snoop is a proud poppa who is out on the road while his little girl decides to throw a birthday party with some of her friends.  The Doggfather comes home early and surprises his little lady but he doesn’t even trip when he realizes she is having a party. It becomes a family affair as Snoop joins in on the fun.



NBA star Dwyane Wade plans on telling his story of fatherhood via a new book. Wade has joined William Morrow of HarperCollins Publishers to release his first book entitled <em>“A Father First: How My Life Became Bigger than Basketball”</em>. The book will focus on Wade’s childhood in Chicago, but also talk about the challenges that he has faced as a divorced father of two sons.

You may remember that Wade had a very nasty custody battle with his ex wife last year, and was awarded custody of the couple’s two sons. Throughout all of the tribulations that he has face, Wade has remained a positive influence in the lives of his children. He told the Associated Press <em>“I don’t have to share it with people, But I felt there was a need. So many people came up to me in this process, so many fathers, so many men came up to me to congratulate me and to ask me how, how I did it and why I believed I could do it.”</em>

Wade has been honored by the National Fatherhood Initiative for his hard work and dedication in fatherhood, and he also hosted a round table discussion in Orlando earlier this year as a part of President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative.

As a writer, Dwyane wants to use this book as an opportunity to give people more insight on him as a father.  “I think the biggest thing when I set out to write a book was just to share my experiences, from when I was a kid, my upbringing, my struggles, my joyous times, to becoming a father,” Wade said. “I’m trying to compare them, how they’ve been the same in a sense, even though my worlds are totally different. But we’re still dealing with the same things. From rags to riches, it really doesn’t matter.”


Members of the New York state legislature paid homage to Trayvon Martin on Monday’s Senate legislative session in Albany.  The show of solidarity was headed by Senator Eric Adams who posted the pictures on his Facebook page.


A video has surfaced of then Harvard college student Barack Obama giving a speech at the university during a protest supporting diversity. Buzz Feed posted the interview where Obama is introducing professor Derrick Bell who was responsible for holding the school accountable for creating more diversity on campus.

It was perhaps Barack Obama’s most intense immersion in the charged campus racial politics of the late 1980s and early 1990s: As President of the Harvard Law Review in the spring of his final year there, 1991, he aligned himself with Professor Derrick Bell’s dramatic protest for diversity on the faculty of Harvard Law School.

Bell was the first black tenured professor at the school, and a pioneer of “critical race theory,” which insisted, controversially, on reading issues of race and power into legal scholarship. His protest that spring was occasioned by Harvard’s denial of tenure to a black woman professor, Regina Austin, at a time when only three of the law school’s professors were black and only five women. He told Harvard he would take a leave of absence — a kind of academic strike — “until a woman of color is offered and accepted a tenured position on this faculty,” and he launched a hunger strike to dramatize his point.

Obama was a major figure on campus, the first black president of the Law Review. Some friends, in a prescient joke, just referred to him as “the first black president.” He had a reputation as a conciliatory figure, not a confrontational one like Bell.

Even though the video is over 20 years old, the President still had the same swag back then that he has now


Miami Heat point guard Dwyane Wade hosted the Fatherhood Heroes round table discussion during the NBA’s All Star Weekend festivities in Orlando, Florida recently.

The event was part of President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative. D. Wade was joined by White House official Joshua Dubois and more. The goal of the discussion was to raise awareness about the importance of being involved in the lives of children.

Wade was asked to join Obama’s fatherhood task force in 2011, shortly after he gained sole custody of his two sons following a long custody battle with his now ex-wife Siohvaughn Wade.

In a blog for Huffington Post in June 2010, he wrote, “I’ve never been at a loss for nicknames. There’s D-Wade and Flash. I love them both, but to be honest, no label sounds as good to me as Daddy.”



Working in radio for the last 11 years has given me the opportunity to come in contact with a lot of different people and personalities. One of my current co-workers at Radio One in Raleigh is Brian Dawson. Brian is the afternoon jock for Raleigh’s K97.5. He has been in the market for over 10 years. One of the things that Brian brings to the table as an on air personality is his relationship with his children. He is a husband and the father of two boy.

Outside of radio, Brian is also the host of a successful TV show that airs locally entitled “The B. Spot”. On a recent episode of the television show Brian documented his relationship with his oldest son Chase. The two bonded over an NFL football game, spent some time at the radio station making a commercial, and spent time together as Chase ran track, played football and other extracurricular activities.

All in all the video is a great example of the relationship between a father and a son. Brian is with his son building a foundation for his future and guiding him through these ever so important early years of his life.

Watch the video below.


A bill has been proposed by Sen. Glenn Grothman to consider single parenting as child abuse.  Sen. Grothman is a republican from Wisconsin who has created a bill to have the state’s Health department consider children from single parent homes as victims of child abuse.

If passed into law the bill would create a campaign that would “emphasize nonmarital parenthood as a contributing factor to child abuse and neglect

That’s right folks, you got it. According to this man if you are a single parent you are committing a crime and automatically neglecting your child.  Never mind that there are single mothers and fathers out here busting their asses to be sure that their children’s needs get met.  Forget about the fact that according to the U.S. Census Bureau there are approximately 13.6 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.2 million children.   I also guess it doesn’t matter that the number of homes with single fathers has grown by 60% in the last 10 years.

I don’t know who this senator is or what his motivation is for trying to push such non sense onto his constituents but this bill alone proves that he is not in touch with reality and not fit to serve.  The preservation of the family structure is something that I think is very important, but that in no way negates the fact that single parents are just as capable of raising children whether they are married or not. And it is unfathomable to think that someone in 2012 would insinuate that being a single parent should be considered as a criminal act.   Instead of trying to incarcerate and intimidate single parents, why not take a moment to honor those parents who raising children on their own without the help of a partner?

As a single parent myself I take offense to the idea of this entire bill and think that something has to be done to get people who think like this out of public office.  Take a moment to think about this the next time you have a local or state election in  your area.



I’m totally in favor of encouraging your kids to pursue their dreams. I think it’s imperative that we start helping our children focus on chasing their dreams at an early age. This way they know the importance of going after the things that they want in life.

5-year-old Zay Zay went to his father and let him know that he wanted to be a comedian when he grows up. In an attempt to help Zay Zay fulfill his dreams, his dad who is also a comedian wrote some material for his son and filmed him for this youtube clip. His father appears in the video , and even set up a facebook and twitter account for the youngin’.

The routine is entitled “Growing Up Black” and features Zay Zay talking about the things that he has experienced as a child growing up.

What do you think about Zay Zay’s attempt at stand up comedy?


Last week I had the pleasure of attendeding the 13th Annual National Fatherood and Families Conference in Los Angeles, Ca.where I presented a wokshop for a group of people entitled “The Gift And The Curse:Understanding The Relationship Between Fatherhood and Hip Hop”  The event was presented by the Fathers and Families Coalition of America and featured events and  workshops geared toward strengthening families and honoring those in the community who have helped to create a better understanding of what needs to be done to give back and encourage our young people to live a life of positivity.

I was the host for the Red Tie/Red Dress gala that honored Father Gregory Boyle, Mr. Richard Claytor, and Cedric “The Entertainer” .  The event featured entertainment from spoken word artists Amber Love and Tye Martin and also the vocal stylings of Ms. Shanie Evans.  DJ Claudia “Brazilia” Oliveira provided the music as guests danced the night away after the awards ceremony.

On Friday morning I presented my workshop.  In the grand ballroom of the Los Angeles Westin I spoke to the crowd about the relationship between Hip Hop and Fatherhood.  This 90 minute workshop was attended by people of all ages from many different backgrounds.  I did my best to educate the attendees about how Hip Hop music and culture can be used to educate fathers and also to help find answers to some of the problems that our communities are facing when it comes to absent fathers.

Overall it was a really good event. I got to meet a lot of people who are making a difference in the world.  Each one of us has the same desire to teach people about the importance of fatherhood.  We all recognized that many of the problems in society are rooted in the breakdown of the family structure and we all did our best to come up with ways to resolve those issues.

You can click the pictures below if you would like to see a gallery of photos from the event.


Celebrity stylist June Ambrose spoke with VIBE magazine recently and gave some tips on how a man can dress for success this Spring.
June has a new reality TV show that will begin airing on VH1 on March 19th.  “Styled  By June” will give us an all access look at what the fashionista does and how she styles some of our favorite celebrities.
On the hottest spring trend:

 “I think you’ll see a lot more bold colored shirts, because I think that they reinvent your existing suits, those classic suits you already have. Adding the Ginghams and checks and all of those fun colorful shirts, is going to reinvent your wardrobe for the spring.”

On where to get a nice, inexpensive watch:
“Timex always does a really classic watch. I’m tryna think price wise. Kenneth Cole does a decent watch. But with Timex, you can always get a classic watch from Timex. It’s like the rolexes of watches. Bulky for day, evening is a little bit more subtle and laid-back leather strap. It depends on what kind of suit he would be wearing throughout the week. But also on the casual, you may be more of a sporty, rubber watch guy. Again it’s a really personal choice, but more of a slicker watch for the evening and leave the bulky chunky stuff for day or more sporty, on the move.”
On how to wear cuff links:

“Well, cufflinks are used on a French cut shirt more for a formal look. One thing about cufflinks and ties, they’re like little jewelry for men. So they should really fit your personality. You see a lot of character in a man’s choice of cufflinks. Whether he’s into animals, into diamonds. I like the more blingy cufflinks. They’re great for evening. And the more textured like stone and chrome and gold hardware, whether it’s an elephant or a turtle or any kinds of those characters that you love. Vintage cufflinks are definitely good during the day with a Gingham shirt or pinstripe.”

On how to wear pocket squares:
“I believe a pocket square should not match the tie. It’s always great to kind of take the pocket square and play around with the pattern of the shirt. It should be in contrast of the shirt. But the tones are very similar. It’s really where you kind of have the most fun. The punctuation to your suit. It also again should say a lot about your personality and character. And in terms of stripes and Ginghams or your paisleys and polka dots, there are no rules when it comes to a pocket square other than the tone should really contrast or complement. Pocket squares are timeless. They don’t ever go out of style. You don’t get trends with squares. But you will see a lot more pastels being introduced because there are lot more pastel suits for the spring.”
On how to wear skinny ties:
“If you have broad shoulders, there’s a certain width with skinnies. You kind of have to balance how wide you go based on the width of your chest. So if a guy is extremely brawny up top, you want to avoid the extremely skinny retro ties. It ends up looking like a vaginal landing strip. You should balance your width based on your chest size, but you know the retro tie is not for everyone. And it’s great with a notch lapel versus a peak lapel.”
On what dress shoes NOT to wear:
“It’s really hard for men to pull off red and yellow [dress shoes]. I would avoid those for a dress shoe. White is so difficult.”

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