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Archive for the month “January, 2012”


A single mother in New York turned herself in earlier today after police say she left her two daughters stranded on a sidewalk in Broooklyn.

Dalisha Adams, 26 has been charged with two counts of endangering the welfare of a child. Cops say that Adams’ daughters Dominae, 5, and Diani, 3 were spotted earlier this week wandering along a busy street in the Canarsie area of Brooklyn. An elderly couple saw the two children and called police because they were playing without an adult present.

When questioned by the police the older child told them her name and a vague description of her mother’s car and home, but could not give enough information for authorities to identify the mom. The litte girl told a news photographer “Mommy just left us on the sidewalk and drove away”

The mother claims that she left the girls with their grandmother inside of the neighborhood’s Bayview Houses. She says that Bertha Davia, who is the mother of the girls father agreed to watch them. The girls father has been accused of domestic abuse previously, and Adams said she did not enter the home because she feared he would assault her.

There were no visible signs of abuse, and the girls were dressed in hooded coats and UGG Boots. After being taken to a hospital the girls were turned over to child protective services. Authorities at child services apparently recognized the girls and told police who the girls mother is.

Police questioned neighbors who told them that they often heard screaming from the Adams home. They say that she could often be heard screaming “Shut the f*ck up” and threatening to punch her youngest daughter in the face. The neighbor also said that she heard the mother screaming “Stop crying. Shut the f— up. I’m gonna get you out of here”

Stories like this really tear at my heart. These babies seem to be caught in a situation where their mother obviously doesn’t care about their well being, and as far as we can see there is not a father present in the home. Prayerfully, these little girls will be placed in a home with responsible adults who care about them. They didn’t ask to be here. The mother needs to be held accountable for actions, and the grandmother needs to be investigated also. This story really makes me ponder why you have to get a license to drive a car but not to have a child.




I am a HUGE Chicago Bulls fan, and Carols Boozer is one of the best players on the team. Well during a game on Sunday against King Lebron James and the Miami Heat Boozer’s sons flipped the script and started cheering for Lebron.

As a Bulls fans this one kinda hurt me to my heart, but it was still cute to see the lil man cheering on for the opposing team while wearing his dad’s jersey.


Nick Cannon, who is married to Mariah Carey and the father of twins covers Bleu Magazine’s “Man Of The Year” edition.  In the cover story Cannon talks about how important his family is, and how he feels he was “built for fatherhood”.

Here are a few excerpts from the story.

On romance and Mariah Carey

“Mariah and I are both hopeless romantics.  We just made a pact to say that we want to be in this because we enjoy each other and we love each other…We want to be successful at being in a relationship; we want to have a good time.”

On relationships

“A relationship shouldn’t seem like something you have to work at; it is not a task.  We always wanted a fairy tale relationship…and the drama that normally comes with it, we [can] do without.”

On fatherhood

“I was built for fatherhood.  I grew up in a family with a lot of kids…Ihave taken care of kids my whole life.  As soon as my children were born, they became first and everything else became secondary.”


Props to YBF


My daughter and I were at the drive through at Chick-Fil-A today and I noticed a sign promoting their “Daddy Daughter Date Night”.  I wasn’t sure what it was about(beyond the obvious), but after further research I found out that CFA is holding events in select markets promoting positive relationships between fathers and daughters .

This looks like a really good event for fathers to attend with their daughter.  I’m already a  Chick-Fil-A fanatic but knowing that they are  helping with the fatherhood initiative makes me have a greater respect for the company.

If you are interested in finding out more information about this event you can go to the Daddy Daughter Date website.



Rapper Q-Tip recently hooked up with the folks from OkayAfrica to conduct a DNA test that would tell him where his ancestors originate from. In the video Q-Tip swabs his mouth with…a q-tip and begins to guess where his family tree began. He believes that he is originally from the Zulu tribe(that would be too easy) and has some Mongolian in the mix as well.

I posted this video because I think that it is important that we all become more familiar with our family ancestry. Our kids need to know more about where we come from and I think it’s good that OkayAfrica is recruiting celebrities to get down with the program.


Gabriel Aubry and Halle Berry are back in family court. Halle petitioned the judge to remove Gabriel’s visitation rights pending an investigation into child endangerment allegations.

Judge Scott Gordon heard arguments in the case this morning and said that a decision will not be mad in the case until Monday.

An immediate emergency order was not granted because the judge felt that the child would be safe until the hearing on Monday.

Judge Gordon did not grant an immediate emergency order for either side because he believed there are enough protections in place to keep Nahla safe until Monday’s hearing.

Halle’s nanny also lost her bid to have a restraining order taken out against Gabriel after the two got into an altercation earlier this week.


Rapper Don Trip performed his heart felt single “Letter To My Son” last night in Tennessee. If you have never heard this song, you should take a moment to listen to what this man has to say as he pleads for the mother of his child to allow him to see his young son.


A real good friend of mine posted this on Facebook earlier today and I gotta say it definitely spoke to me. The young homie Issa raps about his father abandoning him in the track ‘Letter To My Dad” .

Check out this talented young star as he reminds all dads why their kids need them around as they grow older.


Here is a prime example of why you need to monitor what is going on with your kids when they are on social networking sites.   A Philadelphia area man has been arrested for shooting and killing two teenagers and critically injuring another who had an altercation with his three stepsons in school.  The issue between the teens then  spilled onto the social networking site Facebook.

Seven teenage boys were packed into the Toyota Corolla, sitting on top of each other, when the car pulled over on the 1500 block of East Luzerne Street in Juniata Park. It was about 10:30 Tuesday night, and the youths were looking for a fight, police said.

It had started in school with an argument between some of the friends in the car and three teenage brothers, spilled onto Facebook with threats, and escalated into plans to settle the matter with a physical battle.

As the teens waited in the car, a man in a gray hoodie came out of a house and approached them. Spooked, they drove to the back of the house – but moments later, police said, the same man emerged from the back door and ran up to the passenger side.

He fired from 10 to 12 shots into the car at point-blank range. Joshua Soto, 14, of North Philadelphia, and Javier Orlandi, 16, of Kensington, were pronounced dead within a half-hour. Dante Lugo, 14, died Wednesday night at St. Christopher’s Hospital for Children. The 16-year-old driver was hit in the neck and was listed in stable condition at St. Christopher’s.

Police on Wednesday identified the alleged shooter as Axel Barreto, the 30-year-old stepfather of the three brothers, and announced a warrant for his arrest. Barreto was taken into custody about 9 p.m. at the Knights Inn in Bensalem, said Chief Deputy U.S. Marshal John Patrignani. Barreto, who was with a woman, was not armed and did not resist arrest by Philadelphia police and members of the U.S. Marshals Service Fugitive Task Force, Patrignani said. Earlier in the day, police described Barreto as “armed and extremely dangerous.”

“There very easily could have been seven dead teenagers in that car,” Philadelphia Capt. James Clark said. “He just randomly fired.”

The violence in our community has to stop.  We can’t teach our children to be non violent and then turn around and violently kill the people that they have conflicts with.  So now we have parents who have lost their children and children who have lost their step father to a senseless act of violence.  As a father this man should have known better and realized that his actions would have consequences.  There has to be a way for us to cure this violent cycle that is taking so many young minority men away from out communities.

Here is a picture of the suspect Axel Barreto.




A Fort Wayne, IN woman went to some extreme measures to punish her 14-year-old son recently.

Dynesha Lax says that she tried all she could to stop her son from committing crimes and decided to try an alternative method of punishment.

After going to court for crimes that he committed, the boy was given a slap on the wrist in the form of community service. Dynesha told her son that he had to stand outside wearing a sign that detailed all of his wrongdoings.

The teenager stood on a neighborhood corner with the sign that read “I lie, I steal, I sell drugs, I don’t follow the law.”

Lax explained that the court system placed her son on probation and made her responsible for over $300 in fees but no one offered a solution to what was going on with him.

Some drivers who saw the teen outside with the sign didn’t think what Lax did to her son was illegal so they called the police and reported her. When police arrived they decided that what the mother was doing was completely legal because the child was in no danger.

When asked about the punishment Dynesha said “I’m hoping that having him out here is going to make it sink in. It wasn’t for it to be a joke or anything funny. He just had to stand out here two hours and suddenly it blew up. Then again they’ve got their way of parenting and I’ve got mine. My object is to save my son.

Sometimes folks need to mind their own damn business!  If this mother chose to discipline her child by having him stand outside that is her choice. The same people that called the police on her will be the same ones calling the police if he broke into their home and stole some of their property. I’m glad the police made the right call and allowed to discipline her child the way she saw fit.

What do you think?

Was this punishment too severe?


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